alexthegreater ([info]alexthegreater) wrote,
@ 2007-10-12 19:01:00
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Man, again I forget to update this thing. Time just keeps on slipping by and when I check back, three weeks or so have come and gone. But, it's been busy times.

I visited some new friends I made in Jacksonville, and that was pretty cool, but I'm going to be skimpy on the details for reasons that I would be skimped out on. Sorry, but I gotta keep some cards close to my chest. It was fun though.

The week after that I visited Matt in Orlando. It was really great, as I got to see Joel, a friend of mine from High School who I have not seen in several years (you may remember him as he visited New College for a weekend during 3rd year). He's a really great guy, and I wish I had more time to spend with him. Luke was there as well, and we hung out with some of Matt's friends so it was a pretty busy weekend in all. We went to the pre-release tournament for Lorwyn, the new Magic set. I...didn't do to well. Matt made out like a bandit though, winning a ton of free packs. The next day we went to Islands of Adventure thanks to some generous free tickets from Luke. Much merriment was had by all...well, except for Luke who got a really bad headache, which totally sucks, especially considering he was supplying the tickets.

After that, well, things up here in Tally have been bustling as well. I've been spending a bit of time hiking in the woods out here. There's a lot of really nice parks and trails in this area, and I didn't take advantage of them last year, so I'm trying to make up for it. I just love taking a long walk into the wilderness and letting the natural world swallow me up.

It's odd really, this year I've been feeling a lot better than last, a lot less depressed. I've been trying, trying to get out more, trying to meet new people, and I really feel that I have been pretty successful so far. I've made some new friends, I'm a lot busier socially, a lot more hopeful about the future. I still feel like I'm lacking something, and I think I know what it is - community. I don't feel like I'm a part of some sort of cohesive social group that's all around me. Oh, sure I have friends and all, but I want more than that, I want to feel like I belong somewhere. New College did that for me once, FSU does not do that for me now.

I do have some other good news though, something that has made things a little more interesting. I met a girl - or rather, I met someone who I already knew all over again. Her name is Maria, and she and I have been friends for over a year. We met pretty early last year, but back then I was with Story, and back then Maria was a different person to me. Story and I broke up, but that wasn't what made me interested in Maria. Instead, what happened is that I read her LiveJournal. Inside those pages I discovered a whole different person than the one I though I knew. And so I tried to get to know this other Maria, the one on the inside, and well, I liked what I found.

Well, I suppose that's enough for now. I will try and make another post tomorrow, with some more about Maria as well as some stuff about Maryjo's wedding and the upcoming plans.



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[info]lemur_cat
2007-10-13 10:52 am UTC (link)
Sounds like you're doing pretty good. That's great!

Share with me your friend-making secrets?

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[info]alexthegreater
2007-10-17 02:27 am UTC (link)
Gina! Hi! hey! I got your package a few days ago! Thanks! The post office lost it for over a month! Crazy! Anyway, it's really nifty, thanks. I might use the kimono in a Halloween costume! And the slimes and DQ stuff is really cute! And the catgirl is really cute! Yay!

As for the seriousy stuff, I don't really think I have some sort of magic technique to making friends. Last year at FSU I was really lonely, and I didn't know many people. I had a couple of friends, but that was about it. This year, things are going different and I'm feeling a lot better. I think the big difference is that I'm really putting effort into making new friends. At New College it was so easy to meet people and hang out, that I forgot that I had to actively try to meet new people, I couldn't just expect fate to drop people into my lap. Try new things, Gina. Try and start a conversation with someone who is doing something / reading something / playing something that interests you. Try and find out about any sort of local clubs or organizations and then go to them. Hang out at coffee houses, even if it's just to read a book or play a game system. Seize every opportunity you can. You have to try to make it happen. I learned that the hard way, and last year I paid for for it. I'm not letting that happen again, and neither should you. Yes, it will be hard (doubly hard for you since of the cultural barrier in Japan), but it's worth it.

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[info]lemur_cat
2007-10-17 08:22 am UTC (link)
Glad you like it. :)

As for friends: Idunno, I think I might rather just die than constantly drum up awkward conversations and be thought a freak, because the odds of getting along with any given person are abysmally small, and I always replay conversations and kick myself for hours afterward. Plus I seriously do not have the time and energy because work eats my soul. Nevertheless I went to the Doubutsu (animal) Network a couple times, but they were all old ladies. If I lived in Osaka and volunteered at ARK, I could definitely meet young people there, but here it's all old ladies. I go to the free Japanese class every week and am on fairly friendly terms with a Chinese guy and a few of the teachers, but not to the point that I actually feel comfortable around them, and we have nothing real in common. Occasionally I see people playing games on the train, but how much of a freak would I be if I started talking to them about it? Besides, sometimes the game is Yu-Gi-Oh. (Although maybe if they were playing Pokemon and I had mine with me... I did play Pokemon with two students at one school but nothing came of it. Also chess. And I get on well with one or two of the thousand or so students but they are young and also the company forbids me to hang out with them. I thought I had some bond with one of the young teachers but she quit and never answered my e-mail.) So anyway, I am trying, and it is not working. (I could be trying harder by talking to the stereotypical otaku guy playing Yu-Gi-Oh on the train, but there is no level of effort I could put in such that it would be impossible to try harder. Also I guarantee that would completely freak out and terrify them and they'd go deer-in-headlights until I went away.) I'm giving up on this crappy rural prefecture. I'm just stuck here until I can line something up somewhere less crappy. So most of my efforts are in that direction. You will hear more details if anything actually works out, and if nothing works out, screw Japan, I'll be back within the year, to live in my parents' metaphorical basement.

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[info]kwanboa
2007-10-21 06:07 am UTC (link)
Womp.

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